Here’s the message I got:
Stingite, all other bloggers and readers out there, i really want to say something. i will remain anonymous until further notice. i really want your opinion on how to help fix my life. i mean, all of my families problems seem to revolve around me! like, the very fact i was concieved! if that did not happen, my mother's husband wouldnt have left her, and my mom and real dad would still be in arizona with their succsesful vending machine buisness. and i am perhaps the most power wasting person in this family. i am always on the computer, which can waste power and money! and my family isnt exactly made of money. and my whole sleeping pattern is messed up! you know what time i woke up? 6 pm sunday! its 7 in the morning on monday now! sorry stingite/friendly/thomas, i know this is your blog but to alll of those who reads the wizard of many names blog, comment on ways i can fix my life . . .
Here’s the deal from my point of view:
1- You did everything right. Your job when being born was to fight to live. Congrats.
2- You are not to blame for your parents’ actions. You weren’t there to suggest that maybe they should think more about the consequences of having a kid.
3- You are not to blame for your parents’ ill fortune. They are to blame because, once again, you weren’t there to suggest they think more about the consequences of bringing you into the world. Not your fault.
4- Someone is making you feel guilty; either it’s yourself or your parents or someone else. The next question you have to answer is, “why?” Why are they/he/she/I making me feel guilty? Now that’s the real question. You need to figure that out. I think you need to look deeper at that and meditate on it.
5- When you feel guilt, it really means you need to find repentance. Now I’m not talking biblical repentance here, but it’s close. I’m talking about feeling remorse, making amends, and finding true forgiveness. It’s a solid path to erasing guilt and replacing it with something far better: action.
So, I say, what the heck . . . go ahead, feel remorse about feeling powerless about your situation. That’s fine and in fact needed. You gotta really feel that pain. But here’s the key, you also need to follow up with action. Follow up with making amends.
Who do you make amends to? Most likely YOURSELF! You need to change your mind about feeling powerless and own your life. THIS IS YOUR LIFE NOT YOUR PARENTS' MISTAKE. NEVER NEVER NEVER FEEL LIKE YOUR LIFE IS THE PROBLEM! Your life, my friend, is full of potential. Make it beautiful. Make it full of wonder and intrigue. Make it your own. There’s so much out there to experience in this world. There’s such a need for good in this world. And I have faith you can help if you just stop feeling powerless.
Then this is the hard part . . . you need to forgive yourself. This probably won’t come quickly, but when you change your mind that you are going to own your life and live the way you know you should live, then you need to forgive yourself for ever feeling that way, and forget it. Put it behind you and believe in who you really are to become.
Here’s an idea, draw your life’s success story on a piece of paper. Then everyday for a couple months, crack that bad boy out and say to yourself, “I am committed to my success story.” It may sound cheesy, but when you’re committed and when you have a vision of what you want to become, then you’re more likely to make that happen. Do it and increase your odds for success. Next, share it. Get feedback. Get ideas. Get fearless. I'd much rather hear about you losing sleep because you're excited about the future, than hear that guilt and worry are keeping you awake. You know?
Listen, if you feel you are wasting power and money on the computer, then ACT. The power button is just a finger push away. You are not powerless.
If you feel you should be making money, then ACT. Get a paper route or ask if you can help a neighbor by mowing their lawn for money. Look to examples like Ashley Qualls . . . she made 4 million dollars off of her website and she's only 17. If your parents don’t allow it, then, once again, you are not responsible at that point.
If you feel like you are the cause of your mom’s miserable life, then ACT. I highly doubt the purpose of your life was to sit and wallow in guilt about being born. It sounds silly, doesn’t it? yup. And to be honest, it's probably not that miserable at all. Have you talked about this with her?
If you can stop feeling powerless at this age . . . if you stop the cycle of telling yourself that you’re more trouble than you’re worth, you’ll be far far ahead of most of the adults out there in the world who are miserable and more self-defeating than you.
You are the author of your success story. THINK BIG.
Also, if these games like Wizard101 are distracting you from your success story, put them away. If anyone lets entertainment get in the way of finding out who you really are, then they’ve failed. On the other hand, this game we all play is a great way to blow off steam. I don't think you should feel guily about this relatively cheap form of somewhat social entertainment. It costs a lot more to take the family to the movies and out to eat every weekend . . . believe me.
Finally, best of luck from me. I appreciate that you reached out. There's really no need to expose who you are. Remain anon. It's all good.